A Perfect Ideal Idea Gift for you is to try on the role of being a dominatrix. This doesn’t just have to be sexual. Do you like getting massages? Not a problem, ask for one and he shall obey. Need a manicure or pedicure, while you relax and watch one of your favorite shows, I’m sure your servant won’t mind obliging. How about a fresh glass of lemonade being made for you when you walk through the door after a hard day at work. Let him know that he needs to make you happy to earn the right to be Dominated in the bedroom. You might find that he responds so strongly to pleasing you that you can’t wait to get into the bedroom to give him what he has earned.
While he is trying to please you, ask him what kinds of things he would enjoy you doing to him inside the bedroom. It can help to begin with some sort of list of things he wants you to do to him. This way, you will know exactly what he wants and what he doesn’t want. You can then try these things out on him, slowly. Never do too much at one time.
What does this mean? You need to slowly break down your partner in order to make him feel as though you are the one who is in charge. You will do this by having him always do certain things when you are together. For example, he might have to always call you Mistress when you are together and ask for your permission to do anything. Whenever he does not remember to do so, that’s when you either punish him or you stop the session. This sort of control method works as in order to get back to his fantasy, he needs to start paying attention to your commands.